Men, the pampered gender of our society

I am not being sexist but, this is something I have always wondered about.. Why do men in our society (at present times) have it so easy? Why are they always pampered and cosseted by every female in the household as if they are imbeciles or something? It is as if the male population might just evaporate into thin air if they have to lift one of their precious fingers to do a “domestic” chore @ home.

I’ve seen this happen to many Maldivian men and I am sure most of those who have been abroad for longer periods of time, mostly for higher studies have experienced or seen the same thing. Since the male *population* have been petted, pampered and every need of theirs seen to by the female *population* of the household, and for the first time in their lives, they have to take care of themselves, and it tends to *domesticate* most of these men even though it might be for a year or three (that is for those who havent been lucky enough to get married to an unassuming gal and dump all those chores into her lap).

Most of the time you tend to see a change for the good in men’s attitude whilst they live in foreign countries. No longer is chopping vegetables to cook a meal considered as a chore that might cause the guy to shed one or two layers of his masculinity *eyes roll*. And hanging up a few clothes to dry after a laundry session doesnt trigger the magical transformation from a guy to girl. Those who are married and whose wives are also on their studies, tend to help out the wife in doing the domestic chores like cooking, cleaning up etc. Its as if they do *realise* that the women folk are also human beings rather than slaves who are there to do their bidding at the drop of a hat.

However disappointingly, upon completion of their studies and once their feet hit the Maldivian soil, the dramatic transformation from the *domestic* male figure to the *pompous* arse comes upon them swiftly. God forbid that they enter the kitchen for a purpose other than to eat or drink a glass of water. It might just get them labelled as “anbi dhashuvefa” or & please, please do not let their mother see them helping out their wife. The wife becomes completely unsuitable for her Almighty son and the *I knew she wouldnt be able to take care of him the way he should be* conversations take place behind the wife’s back within the household “Oh-puhleeze!!”.

Even though there are a handful of Maldivian men who are secure enough in their masculinity not to be bothered about such trivialities, the majority of the male population tends to relax, lay back and let the ladies of their lives do all the domestic work. Cos us Maldivians deem that its the right way of things, that its how they should be. Cos we have been brought up that way and God forbid that any change be brought to the way we live our life!

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9 thoughts on “Men, the pampered gender of our society

  1. you’ve got an interesting argument here.. I could agree with you… and me being a man.. huh!!! I used to be the same type u just mentioned, before I came here.. it’s the etiquette in our community.. that’s how we’ve being brought up.. that’s how we knew life… I didn’t see my father, or grandfather cooking…
    anyway, things are changing slowly.. it’ll take long time for things like that to change..
    there are gud men, out there… ;)
    cheers!!

  2. my my my thats quite a lot of fire there,shud i inform the fire rescue squad..lol..is this supposed to be something personal..i bet it is:P but the sad thing is that the person who ought to see this and realize that he is the real pompass arse described doesnt have a clue about it and still is at his rightful throne..
    Men are such a disappointment.they change faster than a chameleon changes its colors..teehee

  3. aww cute question. but the answer is staring right in your face. its the women (yes blame the women! blame them! evil lot! decievers of adam!) why did they not object to their slavery? why did they not stand up against this ‘evil male conspiracy’? why didnt they all join up, get a voice and with-hold sex from their husbands Lysistrata-style, if they have to touch one more pot or one more piece of dirty laundry? why cant they fight back? why cant they go up to their lazy husbands, smack them on the back of the head, shut the football game off, and scream at him in not unclear terms that he should do the cooking, cleaning, ironing and milking her breast to feed the baby while she watches oprah and desperate housewives and catches up on the latest gossip? why?!? stability? love? doing it for the kids? not to commit social suicide? whatever it is, tell it to his face. if he leaves you, then you’ve done your bit for women’s lib. if he doesnt, you win anyway. women’s rights! equality! yadayada! blah blah. puke. barf. by the way, i am not a lez.

  4. Yay for the Gud men to come Hammet ;)

    Naah sis.. Am not angry about anything.. Jst stating how things are..

    And anonymous, its nothing personal :) and the pompous arse knows exactly what I am saying ;)

    The second anynymous.. Yah its true.. The women are to blame for cossetting and petting the men folk for al time.. Bleh!!

  5. a topic well worth a discussion. well, it’s the way we were brought up & we’ve to blame the society’s conventional beliefs. it’s unfair for the women. I do a lot of domestic chores myself including washing, cleaning, making bed…etc. i’m not married yet so things maybe different if i do. it’s not that we dump household chores on our wives but they do it considering it their responsibility (again back to upbringing!) & especially given the fact that a lot of wives stay home. it’d be best if couples can find a way to share these responsibilities…

  6. it’d also help if all the girls teach their male kids to cook and launder and the girls to do some of the ‘men’s chores’. we need balance, ladies. and you have the power to bring about this change, coz you’re doing most of the upbringing. dont expect the guys to do anything.

  7. I have to disagree. because what you are describing is just a fraction of the male population.

    sure, there are pampered men. i know some and they disgust me. but most arent.

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