Condition of Marriage

Believe it or not, this is something that happens all over the world regardless of religion, culture or belief system. Of course, we bond with our better half for many a reason. Love which is often confused with the lust factor, convenience or the desire to have childrenĀ  are some of the main reasons why two complete strangers get together and vow to be committed to one another for the rest of their lives.

However, it is of the norm to find the ‘happy couple’ ridden with all sorts of problems and eventually a high majority of them opt for a divorce either amicably or otherwise. When children factor into the equation, this decision becomes a much harder one, especially if both parties involved love their children and want what is the best for them.

So in the end, often when children create hiccups in the divorce paradigm, it is not uncommon to see that couples opt to re-marry and try to work things out, the reason being ‘for the sake of the children involved’. However, in most of these cases, rather than supplying their childhood with good memories that they would always cherish, the well-intentioned deed backfires, leaving the whole family in a constant pool of chaos, heartbreak and pain. Constant bickering between the parents, the continuous blame game which escalates the level of tension at home tends to drive their children away from them, and in the end some of these children do end up committing nefarious deeds which in conclusion means a life lost, that otherwise may have benefited our society in ways we have never imagined.

In other less drastic but equally affected cases, the children grow up knowing that there was no love lost between their parents, and the latent hostility between them, scars the children for life. Often when they embark on their lives with their partners, the insecure feelings inbred in them during their childhood, manifests & rears their ugly head, and in the end their lives too are blackened with the after effects of their parents’ marriage, which was embarked upon, in the hopes of providing their children with the best they can offer.

Parents should understand that, no matter how much they may try to hide the friction of the sort that can breakup a marriage from their children, they are pretty intuitive and pick on even the most subtle signals that show cracks in the perfect facade that their parents try to put up. In the end, such marriages can do more harm than good, and if they really want what is the best for their children, it would be better in the long run if they try to come up with a workable schedule of spending enough quality time with their kids and being there for them whenever the need arises, even though the parents may not stay together, so that the end result is a happier and a more stable family life experience.